Youthful or inexperienced, I am learning to be a good wife and a good mum. I see decade-long marriages fail from our loved ones. Marriage is trying and growing together and growing to be a better woman is often uncomfortable or even painful. I have learned from the film Cinderella. “Be kind and have courage.” I am trying to be less selfish, more considerate, and always generously with love and kindness in our marriage.
I am not going to write a blog post to show off the happy marriage life as happiness is always in the other’s eyes. Instead, I am going to write the little things I love and the small things that count.
Ahem, and so I’ll begin.
Dear Ethan (Cheng, Orange, Husband),
I love that you’re a good dad to Ivan, though he clearly likes me more than you. Boys love mama when they’re still kids. He is learning from you everyday. I am glad of that as you would be a good example.
I love that you drive me to and from work for three years.
I love that you don’t complain when I let my dirty or clean clothes pile up in laundry baskets or in our bedroom.
I love that you are good at cooking lobsters. And when you tell me not to eat all of them after you finish the cooking. (Wink)
I love that you do me a favor when I am carrying a heavy shopping bag.
I love that, for the most part, you get me.
I received a bunch of red roses for the first wedding anniversary. I would be excited if I can receive a gift for the 3rd wedding anniversary as there’s no gift for the second anniversary. Keep your expectations to a minimum and you’ll be less disappointed that way.